As children we’re taught we should share and be generous. When I read this article I noticed a few things. Should we “share” because it’s expected, even if we don’t want to? Shouldn’t we only share when there is a genuine feeling of selflessness? Doesn’t forced to share defeat the purpose of sharing and kindness?
I agree that no, you don’t have to share if you don’t want to and we should learn to be ok when someone chooses not to share, because that’s their prerogative. You aren’t entitled to have what they have. You can be disappointed but it doesn’t mean you have to be disrespectful or hold a grudge in the future.
I learned my lesson about sharing when I lent a friend my magazines and she returned them tattered and with dog ears! >_< I swore I would NEVER lend books out again, and if I did, I would have already prepared mentally to have to replace it. People don’t treat things well and I can’t afford to replace the things I was fortunate enough to have.
However, we should still and always encourage sharing because it puts perspective on the value of material things. The things we are holding on to might bring others even more immense joy than we’re getting and they can always be replaced. We should be teaching children that it takes nothing off of them to share a little, sometimes.
Teach kindness. Yes, at some point in our childhood, we were taught to be kind to others, to bring joy and happiness to others, spread goodness and not cause others harm. While we shouldn’t do this at our own expense, and without any expectation of returns or rewards, when we do give, we should give with a giving heart.