“That’s so offensive!”
How many times have we seen cries of offense being made by the person or group of people who are not the target of offense? Claims of appropriation of culture from others not from that culture. Accusations of thoughtless insensitivity from others not involved.
For example, amid all the lockdowns and then opening back of economies, the question about businesses opening back up before children go back to school and how parents would deal with childcare if they are to be going back to work arose. From what I saw, the people asking the question and demanding a resolution and calling the move out of touch and insensitive to parents were not even parents.
I felt like parents should lead this charge and childless allies would support by reposting the cries of the parents. Should this battle be led by parents and people who are not directly affected by this only lend their support echoing their complaints instead of the charge being driven by the childless for the apparent sake of criticism and conflict?
Coming to the defense of someone or a group of people being disadvantaged is a noble and hourable thing to do. But picking a fight and claiming to be fighting a battle on behalf of someone who has not acknowledged this battle is one they even want fought seems presumptuous and overstepping to me.
Should allies wait to give their support once the cause has been identified?
I first had this cross my mind when all of social media would get triggered over cultural appropriation of black culture when other races would wear braids or cornrows or dreadlocks or perform rap or hip hop and the group of people most loudly berating the offenders were not even black. When people wear culturally sacred clothes out of context, all other cultures cried out more than the real victims.
Not that we should ignore everything that doesn’t directly affect us, stick to our bubbles, and not be our brother’s keepers, but sometimes maybe allies jump the gun and get a bit too eager in calling things out and come across combative.
What do you think?